There's a new movie out on Netflix right now that's called Dumplin'. In the Netflix original, Willodean plays a young girl who signs up for a beauty pageant as a means of revolting against the system. Though I always love a good rebellion-themed story, the lessons were deeper in this one.
In her best-selling book, “Stop Saying Your Fine”, Mel Robbins makes the statement that the best invention catering to human resistance is the snooze button.
Think about it, we push it almost automatically, with minimal effort and quickly return back to what we were previously doing. We use this button because we don’t want to change, try, evolve or do. We want to stay the same, stay comfortable, and keep ourselves safe in predictability.
James Allen shares in depth the ideology that whatever a man thinks, he is. Originating from a verse in Proverbs, this statement has been adapted through a variety of different philosophies and spiritual teachings.
As we think negative or positive thoughts about our current circumstances, our thoughts often lead to actions which lead to habits, which shape our character. Therefore, we are what we think. Your attitude and actions are directly linked to one another.
Around this time of year a lot of people start taking stock on where they've been and how far they've come in the past 52 weeks. A big learning theme for me this year was around money mindset and how the lack of developing this mindset skyrocketed my growth and confidence. I've carried this theme into December by taking careful notice of my best and worst investments this year.
My current passion is my new coaching business, which I’ve titled “Creative Confidence Coaching.” Many people have seemed fascinated with this concept, but few have actually understood what exactly I’m coaching on.
For that reason, I thought I’d take a few minutes to explain what Creative Confidence is.
I believe in the constant growth and evolution of my mind, body, spirit and soul. This growth becomes ambitious when I create achievable goals that I put in writing. I believe we all have the power to change any part of ourselves or our life at any given moment, but what I love about New Years is that we're all forced to think about things intentionally.
As artists, I believe arrival fallacy is one of our biggest gimmicks. We'll be ready to sell our art once we perfect this one technique. But wait, we can't display our work in public until we've sold a few pieces privately first, otherwise no one will wish to see it. We'll submit that poem to a publication when we're more established and eloquent. But this is all horse manure! There's always going to be something else you need to do to prepare, to get better, to up your game – but that isn't the point! No one is ever 100% ready for everything life throws at them.
How do you know if you are making the right decision? You spend hours and hours contemplating your fate on either side of the coin. If I do this, my life will look like this but if I do that, then my life might look like that. It’s as if there isn’t much differentiation in the two choices and yet the choice means everything. The choice is a stakeholder for a turning point in your life.
It's so hard to justify late nights, extra weekends off and time away from loved ones. It's hard to get up every morning, actually putting to action the things you just dreamt about. It's not easy explaining why your perfect job isn't working out. All of these things are difficult but necessary. The life of an entrepreneur is a hard one, but you cannot continue to accept the alternative as a decent replacement.
Sincero teaches each chapter with the approach of mastering your mindset on whatever topic you need help with. If you believe you are a fat, lonely, loser then you will continue to be a fat, lonely, loser because your mind says so. On the flip, if you believe you are an amazing, beautiful woman, you will be an amazing, beautiful woman, because you believe it! Perception is reality, folks.
If you are anything like me at all, you may feel like you're constantly at odds with your creative self. That part of you is alive and well and yet somehow it's always getting overshadowed by that darn, logical part of your personality! I picked up Big Magic, a book by Elizabeth Gilbert as a step towards overcoming this conflict. To my surprise, I read the entire book in two days and found it jam-packed with tons of helpful wisdom on how to live the best version of my creative self, without being so finicky all the time!
When the waves are fierce and you are trying your hardest to ride out them out so you can get back to standing up, really what you need most is to just relax and turn inward for guidance...It is so easy to get caught up in everyone and everything around you. Groupthink is a common epidemic and it isn’t shaping...
The human psyche is such a delicate thing. We hardly realize the sabotage we put on ourselves. I think our own mind tricks us into thinking other people and situations are sabotaging our plans, when more often than not, it truly is of our own doing.
On the outside, it looks like you’re crushing it. Your grades are sky-high, your resume is polished to a 'T' and your friends know they can always count on you. Everyone is so proud of you for being such a clean, predictable, put-together person.
Have you experienced this? The anxiety of small, daily decisions can easily wrap itself around our thoughts so intensely that we become completely paralyzed in our ability to make healthy, productive motions towards reaching our goals. In that aspect, overthinking destroys dreams.
For many of us, our individuality is the key to our success, and as creatives, we know we must harness confidence and courage in this individuality in order to thrive in our personal and professional lives. Despite the message on the megaphone, it is okay to dance to the beat of your own drum. It's okay to wear something crazy. People often times enjoy something off-beat if only for a refreshing outlook...
It's funny how life brings things in and out of your focus. Like a shifting tide our priorities, thoughts and goals can change in an instant. Sometimes we forget our past goals and ideas altogether, yet...
Traditionalism sometimes makes it hard for us to see the variety of options that lay before us at any given time. We assume because we have a job we have to stay there forever or we assume that the place we call home will always be such. So many times, we lie to ourselves saying we're too old or too dumb or too ugly to do something at this point.
"Something about this quirky city calls to the artistic, creative, misfits of the world. It is a city who welcomes weird and different ideas, spins them around with magic pixie dust and controversy and spits them back out into the world as a picture of innovation and originality. That is the version of San Francisco that made me so desperately want to visit its interior."
So this morning as I scrolled through my Instagram feed, I couldn't help but notice a picture of one my artist friends, dancing in the sun. Her caption on the photo explained that she was enjoying her body, as it was a temporary thing, on loan to her for the time being.