Throughout each and every day it can be so overwhelming to take in the ideas, demands, thoughts and energies of the people around us. It often seems like everybody wants something from you and they need it sooner than you can give it to them. Not only is this exhausting, but it’s also an act of giving away our power without realizing it. That’s not to say that it is bad to serve others…
We’ve all criticized the person beaming on Facebook about how magical their life is. But why? Why do we shame them rather than lift them up? Who cares if they have other faults, other issues, other hidden things. We should be ecstatic that they chose to put positivity into the world. We should thank them for sharing smiles! We should express our gratitude for their vulnerability in sharing joy.
I feel as though I’ve released three-hundred pounds of excessive weight from my shoulders. I feel like I’ve released the negativity, the self-consciousness, the meekness, the resentment and the false belief that “I am safe when I am small and quiet.” I’ve expanded so much spiritually in these months that I totally feel like a new, more grounded version of myself. I have the following Wise Women to thank for that:
Learning to push aside the ego, fears, worries and doubts is a huge part of blossoming into the spiritually authentic being you were created to be. These things distract us from our truth and cause us to make decisions that aren’t based in truth. This is why the journey to self-discovery often starts with small steps towards silencing your egoic mind.
How to achieve creative success while avoiding burnout. Living your dream should never be hard. It should always be a state of flow that pours out of you effortlessly and aligns with your heart, soul and passion in a way that fuels you, not drains you.
Truly, I believe there is a time in place for both coaching types. The importance is to know which type of coach is best for you in each season of life, entrepreneurship and growth. The odds are throughout your journey you’ll most likely require a combination of both. Again, the trick is to follow your gut and decipher which is best for you at which moment.
As a professional who spends several hours a day analyzing, communicating and researching social media practices, it's a bit terrifying to experience a major, long-term outage. Just as an electrical outage is terrifying for most folks. You get so used to depending on these things, you don't realize how much you need them until they’re down. Many livelihoods depend on electricity always being around. Social Media is the same way.
There's a new movie out on Netflix right now that's called Dumplin'. In the Netflix original, Willodean plays a young girl who signs up for a beauty pageant as a means of revolting against the system. Though I always love a good rebellion-themed story, the lessons were deeper in this one.
In her best-selling book, “Stop Saying Your Fine”, Mel Robbins makes the statement that the best invention catering to human resistance is the snooze button.
Think about it, we push it almost automatically, with minimal effort and quickly return back to what we were previously doing. We use this button because we don’t want to change, try, evolve or do. We want to stay the same, stay comfortable, and keep ourselves safe in predictability.
James Allen shares in depth the ideology that whatever a man thinks, he is. Originating from a verse in Proverbs, this statement has been adapted through a variety of different philosophies and spiritual teachings.
As we think negative or positive thoughts about our current circumstances, our thoughts often lead to actions which lead to habits, which shape our character. Therefore, we are what we think. Your attitude and actions are directly linked to one another.
Around this time of year a lot of people start taking stock on where they've been and how far they've come in the past 52 weeks. A big learning theme for me this year was around money mindset and how the lack of developing this mindset skyrocketed my growth and confidence. I've carried this theme into December by taking careful notice of my best and worst investments this year.
My current passion is my new coaching business, which I’ve titled “Creative Confidence Coaching.” Many people have seemed fascinated with this concept, but few have actually understood what exactly I’m coaching on.
For that reason, I thought I’d take a few minutes to explain what Creative Confidence is.
I believe in the constant growth and evolution of my mind, body, spirit and soul. This growth becomes ambitious when I create achievable goals that I put in writing. I believe we all have the power to change any part of ourselves or our life at any given moment, but what I love about New Years is that we're all forced to think about things intentionally.
As artists, I believe arrival fallacy is one of our biggest gimmicks. We'll be ready to sell our art once we perfect this one technique. But wait, we can't display our work in public until we've sold a few pieces privately first, otherwise no one will wish to see it. We'll submit that poem to a publication when we're more established and eloquent. But this is all horse manure! There's always going to be something else you need to do to prepare, to get better, to up your game – but that isn't the point! No one is ever 100% ready for everything life throws at them.
How do you know if you are making the right decision? You spend hours and hours contemplating your fate on either side of the coin. If I do this, my life will look like this but if I do that, then my life might look like that. It’s as if there isn’t much differentiation in the two choices and yet the choice means everything. The choice is a stakeholder for a turning point in your life.
It's so hard to justify late nights, extra weekends off and time away from loved ones. It's hard to get up every morning, actually putting to action the things you just dreamt about. It's not easy explaining why your perfect job isn't working out. All of these things are difficult but necessary. The life of an entrepreneur is a hard one, but you cannot continue to accept the alternative as a decent replacement.
Sincero teaches each chapter with the approach of mastering your mindset on whatever topic you need help with. If you believe you are a fat, lonely, loser then you will continue to be a fat, lonely, loser because your mind says so. On the flip, if you believe you are an amazing, beautiful woman, you will be an amazing, beautiful woman, because you believe it! Perception is reality, folks.
If you are anything like me at all, you may feel like you're constantly at odds with your creative self. That part of you is alive and well and yet somehow it's always getting overshadowed by that darn, logical part of your personality! I picked up Big Magic, a book by Elizabeth Gilbert as a step towards overcoming this conflict. To my surprise, I read the entire book in two days and found it jam-packed with tons of helpful wisdom on how to live the best version of my creative self, without being so finicky all the time!
When the waves are fierce and you are trying your hardest to ride out them out so you can get back to standing up, really what you need most is to just relax and turn inward for guidance...It is so easy to get caught up in everyone and everything around you. Groupthink is a common epidemic and it isn’t shaping...
The human psyche is such a delicate thing. We hardly realize the sabotage we put on ourselves. I think our own mind tricks us into thinking other people and situations are sabotaging our plans, when more often than not, it truly is of our own doing.
On the outside, it looks like you’re crushing it. Your grades are sky-high, your resume is polished to a 'T' and your friends know they can always count on you. Everyone is so proud of you for being such a clean, predictable, put-together person.
Have you experienced this? The anxiety of small, daily decisions can easily wrap itself around our thoughts so intensely that we become completely paralyzed in our ability to make healthy, productive motions towards reaching our goals. In that aspect, overthinking destroys dreams.
For many of us, our individuality is the key to our success, and as creatives, we know we must harness confidence and courage in this individuality in order to thrive in our personal and professional lives. Despite the message on the megaphone, it is okay to dance to the beat of your own drum. It's okay to wear something crazy. People often times enjoy something off-beat if only for a refreshing outlook...
It's funny how life brings things in and out of your focus. Like a shifting tide our priorities, thoughts and goals can change in an instant. Sometimes we forget our past goals and ideas altogether, yet...